There is a major cultural stigma against divorce in the United States, and in most other countries. This can be contributed to history, media or just the general horror stories that many people may have to live through. Although it’s rare that a couple will enter into a marriage anticipating or prepared for a divorce, it is not the evil animal that it is cast out to be.
I have seen divorces at both ends of the spectrum– some have been completely amicable where the parties have walked away friends, but others have been knock-down, drag-out fights. Obviously, some of those vicious fights have merit to them; there are times when a custody battle is completely valid, especially if there is an abusive parent. However, more often than not, a vicious divorce is the product of each spouse’s hurt and desire to get revenge on the other. But at the end, it can do more harm than good.
An amicable divorce can be healthy for the entire family, especially children who have been watching their parents fight. Children may actually be happier when there are two stable and peaceful households instead of a single tumultuous one. When the parents are no longer fighting with each other and can be at peace with the divorce, and the events leading up to it, then they become more attentive and involved with their children. A divorce can also start to heal many raw emotions that have been stirring for years and can bring closure to two people. Let’s face it, marriage isn’t forever for everyone, but it doesn’t mean that it has to end badly for some.
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